Monday, May 31, 2010

RAD?

I keep going back to the question "Can my kids who were placed with us shortly after birth have RAD?" I know that my 2 year old (who was in excellent foster care for his first 10 months) has indications but so do some of the kids who have been with us from infancy on - any input?

6 comments:

waldenbunch said...

Our therapist has told my RAD kids that even in utero babies can feel their mom's anxiety, stress, anger, etc. We know that drugs and alcohol effect them but if they don't want to be pregnant, don't take care of themselves, I believe that effects the child also.

Anna said...

I don't question your judgment, but can you share what he's doing that makes you wonder? This makes me so sad for him and for you, Robert, the rest of your family.

radmama said...

I definitely think that they can be on the attachment issue spectrum, if you will. We have a son that we brought home from the hospital who most certainly has attachment issues, despite all of our babywearing and attunement activities. While we were attaching to him, he was not fully able to do the same. We think that this is due to damage done by significant prenatal trauma, pharmacological and otherwise. I also try to remember that even those placed at birth have experienced loss of their primary attachment figure (birthmother). Thankfully, this little guy is our fourth child, so btdt.

dorothy said...

Hey Anna - I will email you off blog and fill you in...he's just such a tangle of opposites.

Lee Ann said...

I definitely think it is possible. I was talking to a psychologist recently that was explaining that if the birth mom is severely depressed/or has other extreme psychological problems that are unchecked when the part of the brain that controls relational experiences is developing in the baby, that it damages/changes how that part of the brain develops for that baby. So even apart from drug/ alcohol exposure, a child who has had this prenatal exposure is again not starting from the same place.

The psychologist was explaining that is why it is so important for pregnant women with extreme mental health issues to take medications, even if the medications have some risks. Because without the medications, there is a high likelihood the baby's brain chemistry will be affected.

Ettina said...

No, a kid who was placed at birth into a good home cannot have RAD. However, they could have other issues caused by genetics or prenatal environment that may mimic RAD. Some conditions that can resemble RAD are autism, FASD, callous-unemotional personality, or bipolar disorder.